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Something bothers me

January 6th, 2016 at 09:45 pm

It's not who said this that bothers me, but rather what this person said. "I can't believe you bought a house." I can't believe it either. I feel like I've given in or given up on my dreams and have merely settled for reality. I feel like am betraying something, or letting someone down. This bothers me. I feel like I don't entirely belong here, where I am. I feel like I am still living in someone else's house.

I don't know how to come to terms with all this just yet. All I know is that my commute was really bothering me, and this place effectively solves all that. For now.

8 Responses to “Something bothers me”

  1. creditcardfree Says:
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    Owning a home isn't a bad thing! And it sounds like it is a nice space for you with benefits you enjoy. And the truth is you can always sell it later. You have kids that visit, so I would guess this is a positive for them as well.

  2. CB in the City Says:
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    Are you feeling tied down? For many people, buying a house IS the dream! I think you should enjoy it, and while you're at it, pat yourself on the back! Buying a house is an accomplishment!

  3. Tabs Says:
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    Haha, that's true CCF. I also needed this house so the kids have a place to stay when they are visiting.

  4. MonkeyMama Says:
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    I don't know. IT's just a means to an end. It sounds like a symbolizes a lot more to you on some level. But I'd just work on letting that go and focus on what it actually is.

    The only reason we bought our first home was because it was the only thing that made any financial sense. I think maybe I Felt more of the opposite. I know home ownership symbolizes a lot of things to a lot of people. In our case it was more of a financial strategy.

    Nothing wrong with living closer to work and having a place for your kids. Plus, it's not forever. Unless you bought with -0- down and are already upside down. Wink Few of these types decisions are really permanent.

  5. FrugalTexan75 Says:
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    A shorter commute is an important thing. As is having a place for your kids when they visit.

    What you think about your decision is important.

    What other people think? Pshaw!

  6. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    Wha-wha-wha-what??? You bought a house? How did I miss that? Did you not tell us? Tell us about it, please. Personally, I want to know if it has garden space. Wink Oh, and I want to know if that closet door really opens inward on the closet the way it looks in your last photo.

  7. Ima saver Says:
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    Well, I think you are very smart for buying a house!! The best financial decision I ever made was to buy my own home at age 21. I got it paid off and have never paid a mortgage payment ever again! (Even tho I have moved 3 times)

  8. Tabs Says:
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    Thanks, MM and FT. I think it was a practical decision that I made for now, and not necessarily the one that I really dream of doing. In an ideal world, I would still like to downgrade even more to something smaller, and perhaps in that ideal world, travel a bit in my own DIY RV.

    Haha well Joan, as you know, I am not very active these days. Not surprising at all if you didn't catch all the details as I do not mention them that clearly.

    Hey there Ima. I think this is the right choice to make as well. Obviously, buying a house is not a decision to take lightly, and it's something you guys know I have agonized over the years, preferring something smaller and more affordable. But again, when my situation changes, I can always sell this house again so we will see what happens.

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