Recently, a friend of mine got his debit card swiped by some identity thief. Luckily for him, he managed to detect the illicit purchases in his checking account early, and contacted his bank immediately. While that's all well and good, what followed is that his entire checking account had to be transferred to a new account, meaning he has to go through all the process of changing all of his online bill pays and direct deposits, etc.
Some of his bills had hiccups, such as his water / sewer, where they said he was paid up (through the old account) but they never received any money, so he had to figure out how to pay with his new account but can't use it because the computer system doesn't allow changes when the old account already shows it's paid....
And the scary part? He said he had a crap ton of money sitting in his savings. Like tens of thousands. I'm like why? Why have large sums of money sitting around doing nothing? Regardless, he knows better now, and will at least stick with credit cards only.
Another buddy of mine-- the one that I've blogged about before regarding his divorce-- his divorce ideally should have been finalized by now, but for some reason, it still hasn't. And not only is it not finalized yet, but now, his law firm is suggesting that he should not settle for joint custody, but to fight for primary if not sole custody of his children as well. My buddy also agrees with this action.
Ok, but this buddy of mine is not a rich man. He's already taken out loans from wherever and whoever he can just to afford the current $30k+ in legal fees. And now they're asking him to put up another $5k to $9k that he doesn't have, just to fight for primary custody? My buddy swears up and down they are good lawyers, but even if that's true, they are also ridiculously expensive, and he can't afford them any longer.
This line of converation make things super awkward too, like when he suddenly invited me to his "family day" last weekend where I got a chance to hang out with his kids again. And while they sure have grown and seems to be doing well, I can't help but feel like he wanted me to come out and see his kids, in person, to help me realize how important they are, and that I should help contribute money to his custody battle. Yes, they are indeed wonderful kids and they are very important, but come on man. You can't be serious about trying to get me to give up thousands of my own hard earned dollars, money that I know I will never get back, just for your greedy lawyers to fight over something that might not even be necessary to go to court for?
Anyways, I have nothing to report on this early monthly update, other than to say that I love the boring life, especially when I look at all the drama and challenges my friends are going through. When my buddies ask me, "How are you doing?", I'm like "Great. No news at all on my end, but No News is Good News!"
June 27th, 2025 at 10:31 pm 1751059898
That's just ridiculous that he'd want you to help him finance this custody battle. It sounds like his lawyers like stringing him along to get even more moolah. Ouch.
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Are you on Facebook? They have a "Dull Men's Group" and a "Dull Women's Group" which are actually quite hilarious.
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July 1st, 2025 at 02:55 am 1751334933
I feel bad for your friend who was a victim of identity theft. With the sophistication of thugs these days, that could probably happen to any of us.